“My Wedding Is In 2 days… This Is The Text I Wake Up To From My Mother”

Many years ago, when my parents were making a guest list for their wedding, my father took a piece of paper and wrote: “Number 1 – Mom.” It makes perfect sense, considering how emotionally bonded we are to our parents. But sometimes they start to overuse this bond.

Like the story we’re going to tell you today from the user u/stay_zooted, who, literally two days before his wedding, faced a demand to seat two more guests—who were personally invited by… that’s right, his mom!

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The author of the post is getting married in two days and recently received a text from his mom about the additional guests

Image credits: Jonathan Borba / Pexels (not the actual photo)

The problem was that Mom had invited them behind his back—and even demanded to book them specific places!

Image credits: stay_zooted

The author found the way to handle this problem but he was very upset and took it online to vent about

So, the Original Poster (OP) is getting married in two days and just got a text from his mom—Aunt Evelyn and Pablo will also be at the wedding. It turns out that Mom invited them herself, and now she wants them seated in specific places at the reception!

And the problem isn’t even that the seating chart has long been compiled. Or that the menu will have to be changed for the sake of additional guests. And it’s not even that Mom invited someone behind the groom’s back. The main problem is that the author has no idea who Aunt Evelyn and Pablo actually are!

No, in the end, the author found out that Evelyn is his grand-aunt from his mother’s side, whose existence he hadn’t known about until today. Yes, this often happens—at our wedding, especially if it’s pretty much lavish and with delicious treats, sometimes quite a few relatives appear that we hadn’t known before.

In general, the issue seems to have been resolved—it just so happened that another couple of guests had literally just announced they wouldn’t be able to make it, so the OP has the unique chance to personally meet Aunt Evelyn and Pablo anyway. But they will sit in the vacant seats—nothing more. And then, when the celebrations are over, the author will obviously need to have a serious talk with his mother…

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“Of course, the mother had no right to invite anyone without coordinating it with the newlyweds – it’s just basic common sense. But often parents of adult children blatantly neglect this common sense, believing that they have the right to decide for them,” says Maria Kryvosheeva, a psychologist and NLP coach, whom Bored Panda got in with touch for a comment.

“And in this sense, it is very important to suppress the slightest attempts to decide anything for you – otherwise, sooner or later, you will find that your parents are starting to control your life, as they did a couple of decades ago. Of course, not all parents act this way, but this is a fairly common pattern.

“In any case, since this man gave up and allowed his mother’s relatives to show up at the reception, it makes sense to have a talk with her later and explain that such behavior is totally unacceptable in the future. I hope he will do so. But for now, I wish the wedding to go without the slightest incident,” Maria sums up.

In the comments on the original post—of course—people supported the author in his indignation, fully sharing the whole range of feelings that overwhelmed him after reading that text. “I can feel the frustration from here, calling someone Mother is the equivalent of your mom calling you by your full name,” someone wrote quite wittily.

Some responders believed that the author was overly accommodating in communicating with his mom—probably wanting to avoid a scandal on the eve of his big day. “Even with the drop out I would have told her that they are not invited,” a commenter claimed. “Hard rule: no introductions at my wedding,” another added. And what do you, our dear readers, think about this story?