Women Share 48 Relationship Red Flags In Women That Men Should Look Out For

It's important to keep an open mind when you start dating someone. Sure, you might find it odd that they prefer walking only on your left or getting out of bed after the 12th alarm, but these things aren't exactly deal breakers.

Real dating warning signals tend to be more complex than habits you could pass off as behavioral quirks. So, to get a better understanding of where people draw the line, Redditor YummyYmir asked all the females on the platform what they believe to be immediate red flags in women that men should look out for. From not having girlfriends to emotional blackmail, we thought you'd also be interested in hearing the answers, so we put together the most popular ones into a list.

Continue scrolling to check it out and if you want to see men exploring the same topic, fire up our earlier publication here.

#1

Emotional blackmail. Threatening to harm self each time anything doesn’t go her way. Threatening to tell the whole world something that’s private between the two of you whenever anything goes wrong.

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#2

For men and for women, rigid gender roles. Someone who sees you more as a gender than as a person brings a whole host of problems with that mindset.

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#3

Not necessarily immediate, but having size or $$ requirements for the wedding ring is usually a bad sign.

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#4

When they put other women down and hang out with men all the time, to be like “one of the boys”. There’s som deep misogyny going on and most of the time that girl is VERY insecure. Trust me, I was that girl.

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#5

Not having any girlfriends because “I don’t get along with women.”

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#6

Expecting you to read their mind!

I'm bi and have dated a few women seriously.

I unfortunately seemed to have a type- charismatic and very social women who were also passive aggressive. They all expected me to just know when and why they were mad at me, as they would become cool and distant with me, they'd sometimes stop returning calls for periods of time, and their facial expression would appear angry. BUT, when I asked what was wrong,, repeatedly, they would only say " nothings wrong". They'd make me beg and plead to find out what was wrong. It was infuriating.

The last womani seriously dated decided she was just going to not take my calla suddenly for a number of days. I just got fed up and never called her again/ ended things that way. She tried to call me eventually but I'd just screen her calls and let them go to voice-mail. I was so done with the games

All women are NOT like this. But I definitely had to rethink what sort of ladies I was dating.

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#7

“If you really loved me, you’d know.”

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#8

If she thinks she can control you/ win you over through sex. I had a friend that would say; I'm going to Fu*k him so good that he will fall in love with me. She would usually say this if it was their first date.

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#9

I'm a guy, but I thought that I'd add something here anyways.

The red flag is extreme sensitivity to shame and pride. These are textbook examples of clinical narcissism and believe me when I tell you that you are not prepared for the myriad ways that dating a narcissist will f**k you up.

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#10

Oh Jesus.

- manipulation: always making you feel bad for standing up for yourself, or for not agreeing with her otherwise sketchy behavior
- cheating: I hate to say this but most women now a days already have your replacement lined up if you stop serving them.
- selfishness
- gold digging
- laziness: won't work to support themselves


There's more but it hurts me to have to list them all.

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#11

Calls herself an empath, and says she’s more in touch with emotions than other people.

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#12

love bombing right after meeting for the first time

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#13

A woman who loves the saying, "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best," or something like that. I understand the premise, that a relationship needs to be handle all the up's and down's. However, I find that woman who really love this saying tend to be rather mean, abusive, belittling, etc. at their 'worst'. No one deserves that.

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#14

She says people are jealous of her. This is my number one red flag for women.

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#15

"You don't have to use a condom" Isn't always a trap. But if it's early in the relationship, it should be troublesome.

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#16

When she thinks she's a witch, or into witchcraft, etc.

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#17

when she's complaining about how guys can't even give the "bare minimum" but does the same.

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#18

Same as guys. If all the ex boyfriends or husbands are crazy and she says she hates drama, she is crazy and starts drama.

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#19

Expecting the man to "entertain" her on a date and arrange all logistics and events. Note: it is not a bad thing if a guy wants to surprise his date with something fun, or do something thoughtful, or plan something special. The problem is when the woman does constantly expects her boyfriend to arrange everything, like he's a concierge at a hotel, especially if she does not reciprocate. Worst is when the woman provides no input about what she'd like to do and then sulks when the man does not use ESP to divine her wishes.

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#20

Women who go from relationship to relationship without time to be single are usually trouble. Same goes for women who change their identity with each relationship. It doesn’t mean they’re bad people, but they clearly have issues to work through, if their self-esteem is validated through male attention.

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#21

If she always wants to be around you and gets irrationally angry with you when you want to leave for a bit..
Red flag..

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#22

Princess mentality.
Trust me dealing with that is not worth it.
“I get whatever I want”
Ew

#23

When she complains about people ghosting her often and her not understanding why.

#24

A woman who wants to move in right away. Who discourages you from seeing your friends and who slowly stops you from doing what you want.

It’s a MF trap.

Watched it happen to a friend of mine. It was heartbreaking

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#25

When she constantly belittle every other woman around her just to show off how "special" and "different" she is. Once in a while is ok I guess, but if she's always like that then there's a problem.

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#26

Women who are aggressive and slap or hit others then say "you can't hit a woman."

You can't hit anyone Stacy.

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#27

When they insist that a lack of personal space equals to you not paying them enough attention. Like you can like/love someone without having to spend all your hours glued to them, or hanging on to everythingthey say.

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#28

When every photo on her IG page is a selfie of some sort.

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#29

Asking this same question over and over again with small tweaks

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#30

Pretending to act dumb because she thinks it’s cute.

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#31

When she gets mad at you for saying no to her. I'm not just talking about big things, if she throws a fit because you cancelled one plan, run. There are a lot of women out there that are more than ready to turn down guys but get real pissed when someone else tells them no. More trouble than its worth, and that lack of accepting no's *will* become a problem later on. One of my old high school friends was like this, she acted as if her boyfriends should always do her bidding and that they were bad people if their worlds didn't revolve around her.

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#32

They ask for a very expensive item on the menu when you're paying. They might just be using you for free food

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#33

When you try talking to her and she hardly talks with you, then goes back to whatever she was doing.

Example, tried talking with my ex a lot but she wouldn’t keep up a conversation and once ignored me entirely. I was just tryna hang out with my gf. Not a surprise that the relationship didn’t last long

#34

Anyone who tells other people about your private conversations. I mean, it's one thing if you tell a good joke and they want to pass it on, but you should be able to confide in them about serious topics without fear they'll run off and tell someone else. This goes for friendships, too.

#35

Jumping ship. She’s already in a relationship and is looking for the next one. Someone like that is a parasite.

#36

When she needs to be a Princess. I don't mean like, she wants you to be nurturing if she's sick or she wants to pick out the stuff for the wedding. I'm talking about - it's her way or the high way all the time for anything and cost/other peoples feelings be damned.

She is selfish and entitled and those things don't go away.

#37

Everyone downplays it, but if your date insists that she doesn't want any of a specific food you want to order and then only after it's at the table turns around and says she does actually want it, she will likely keep doing it and it will get annoying very fast. There's a weird stigma that women shouldn't eat much on dates (I had an ex scoff at me for finishing the burger I ordered because it "wasn't ladylike") and it can just lead to really annoying habits that should
be nipped in the bud early.

#38

Passive-aggressiveness to get her way. Like the silent treatment, guilt trips, etc. Until you're isolated or find yourself doing only things with/for her. It's like... emotional abuse and happens to men all the time but no one seems to care.

#39

They expect you to “rescue them” from their abusive exes/untreated mental health problems/shitty childhood.

A lot of women fantasize about the perfect man who never hurts her or burdens her with his needs. And he’s going to be the amazing guy who deals with all the anxiety and paranoia and baggage she has from abusive exes.

Remember that you’re human too and you deserve to be treated like a human and not someone’s white knight

#40

Anyone tired of the 20 variations of this question now? It was interesting at first, now it feels like people are just karma farming by slightly changing it

#41

If she's immediately suspicious/jealous of you having female friends. If she sees other women you have a platonic friendship with as competition, she's not worth the hassle. You can't expect her to like ALL your friends, but if she objects to other women in your friend sphere, it's trouble.

#42

She states she is too busy to talk when apart but when you are together she sits on her phone constantly, she always complains, she only ever talks about herself

#43

Jealousy and possessiveness. - Wife

#44

– lack of reciprocity
– love bombing
– lot of people around her are "narcissistic" and she is the victim (it may be true, certain victims tend to attract narcissists like a magnet, but be careful)
– treats the waiters badly
– hangs out only with people who benefit her in some way (unless you are the same)
– mistreats those who are of no use to her when she thinks you dont notice (worse if she knows you notice)
– NEEDS to be the centre of attention (nothing wrong with that if you like attention in a healthy way)

Yes, I have grown up with people with narcissistic traits. I described my sister. :) She can't help herself and I wish her all the best. Her boyfriends have not been happy.

#45

This holds true for anyone, but: Women who are holding auditions to fill the role of "husband and/or father" rather than seeking a specific person who's a good teammate and partner for them. The more detailed someone's mental plans for their married life are, the less room there is for another real human being in that life.

Bonus red flag: pouring focus, attention, and energy into every detail of "the perfect wedding". At heart, a wedding is signing legal paperwork and then throwing a party. A single day out of years, hopefully decades, together. Something is bound to go awry, but at the end of the day, if you're married to your teammate, it's all fine. Someone who doesn't understand that isn't ready for that kind of commitment.

#46

If you’re using a “dating” app, except for the really expensive ones that do the work for you, skip every profile where the bio is just a list of things she doesn’t want/doesn’t have “time for”. You’re not selling yourself. You’re trying to find someone to give yourself to. She should do the same. Trust is important.

#47

Women (or men) who put people through s**t just to see if they pass the test. My friend used to create problems just to ‘test’ other people. Romantic relationships as well as friendships. She’d only admit it was a test afterwards when you inevitability failed and realized she was lying.

#48

Women that use ultimatums as a form of manipulation to get their way.
They isolate you little by little from your friends and family until they have you to themselves.

Get irrate when you make plans with friends, family, but only want you to stay home and hang out with them, or attend THEIR family/ friend outings.

Someone you cannot communicate with… have to hold your tongue constantly because you’re afraid it’ll start an argument.

My brother in law is a farmer and the industry is rough right now and was living with his mom on the family farm to help and renting out the extra house on the property to make extra money.
Not even dating a year and she begged for him to kick the renters out who were good friends for 10+ years so they could move in. “You need to kick them out by the end of next month or we are breaking up” turned quickly into “ I’m not moving in unless you propose.”
Long story short, she still moved in without a proposal, an absolutely empty manipulative tactic.

Now its “I’m not paying cause it’s not my house.”
Stay clear of this, PLEASE