Guy Wonders If He Was A Jerk For Refusing To Explain How Gay Sex Works To His Niece, Making Her Cry

Teaching kids about the birds and the bees is never easy—it can be a bit awkward and embarrassing for everyone involved. Some parents prefer to have ‘the talk’ with their children themselves, some others leave that up to the school, while many parents do a mixed approach. However, not all parents are able (or want) to answer every single question that their kids might raise.

Redditor the_goblinking1, a gay man, shared a story about how he found himself in a tough pickle at his dad’s birthday when his niece wanted to know how he and his fiancé make love. He didn’t want to answer that, but this made his sister-in-law incredibly angry. Read on for the full story.

Sex education is essential for students. However, not everyone agrees on who should teach it: teachers, parents, or someone else

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A gay man shared how he felt it wasn’t his place to explain to his niece how he and his partner make love

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The man’s sister-in-law thought that he should have simply been honest with his niece

The author of the story was anxious that he might have been in the wrong for not giving his 11-year-old niece an explanation about how gay men sleep with each other. She had asked him directly, but he decided that it wasn’t his place to provide the details.

This, however, made his niece cry and, in turn, made the OP’s sister-in-law very mad. “We then told her that we didn’t feel comfortable doing that and that if my niece was really itching to know how two men have sex then her and my brother should tell her,” he wrote on Reddit how he felt that it wasn’t his responsibility to get into the details of how sex, love, and relationships work.

He still felt conflicted about the entire exchange, so he turned to the AITA subreddit for advice. His post got over 14.6k upvotes, and the vast majority of readers were very sympathetic. They thought that he did nothing wrong: he wasn’t required to teach his niece these things—if her parents thought it was this important, they could provide the information themselves.

How sex education is taught will depend on where you live and on your school district

How children are educated about sex varies widely depending on what country they live in. And even then, there can be very different approaches within the country itself. For instance, in the United States, sex education programming varies very widely across states and school districts. However, according to Planned Parenthood, the vast majority of parents (93%) support having sex education taught in middle school. An even greater number (96%) support it being taught in high school.

Most parents support the teaching of topics like healthy relationships, birth control, sexual orientation, puberty, and STIs. However, the particulars will depend on the specific school district you send your children to.

Meanwhile, in the United Kingdom, Relationships Education is compulsory in all primary schools, but sex education is not. In the UK, by the end of primary school, students are expected to know about the importance of families, how healthy family life looks like, and how others’ families might look different from theirs. According to the UK government’s statutory guidance, it’s important to stress the fact that everyone should respect those differences “and know that other children’s families are also characterized by love and care.”

This education is more than just about sex, however. It also focuses on healthy relationships and other important issues

In primary schools, teachers focus on teaching about healthy and respectful relationships, focusing on family and friendships, and being safe in real-life and online. Meanwhile, secondary school students are taught about intimate relationships, sex, risk areas such as drugs and alcohol, and how to have positive and healthy sexual relationships. Some of the important topics that are covered include consent, exploitation, online abuse, harassment, forced marriage, and others.

“Pupils should be taught the facts and the law about sex, sexuality, sexual health, and gender identity in an age-appropriate and inclusive way. There should be an equal opportunity to explore the features of stable and healthy same-sex relationships,” the UK government writes.

Here’s how some internet users reacted to the man’s story about the family party

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